Too many people have an up-and-down flow of friends, especially SUCCESSFUL entrepreneurs and professionals. Some months they have almost too many things to do, places to go, and people to see, and are WAY too busy, and other months, they're feeling like famine, wishing they had people to do things with. I've been there in the past, and there's nothing worse than experiencing those two extremes on a regular basis. It'll make you want to go back to a regular job for good, just for the consistent comraderie! (NOT ME!).
I take a NO EXCUSES approach to getting what you want out of retirement life. That means that the number one rule I have is that I do SOMETHING to bring friends towards me every single day. Otherwise, you'll find that no matter how good you are, and no matter how well liked you may be, your supply of friends will eventually dry up.
The key is to shoot for OVERFILLING your retirement life. Most people just aim for having SOME people in it. That's not enough. If you aim for something WAY bigger than what you've already gotten so far, you're more likely to reach a more acceptable level, than if you were to aim low.
When I talk to my clients about this, the number one answer that comes back is, "But what if I get TOO many friends, people who want to do things with me all the time? What do I do then?" I've even heard, "What if I get TOO big? Then what?" That's when I usually laugh, and say, "GOOD! That's a great problem to have!"
There are at 2 solutions for having too many people wanting to be with you at the same time:
Schedule some time in your calendar for them. It's OK to do this. What you'll actually notice is the opposite of what you might think would happen. Instead of them not wanting to be scheduled, saying, "I don't want to wait," most friends will chomp at the bit to find out how soon they will get to spend time with you, and will want to see if they can do anything to get together earlier. It's actually VERY Attractive.
Leverage your time and efforts by creating group gathering. You'll end up being able to interact with MORE people at once AND have more fun than you would with a single person. Leverage is one of the best things ever "invented" and having too many friends is one way to set yourself up for this.
What's the easiest way to do this? Discipline. No one was born disciplined or organized, but by working as an executive and as an entrepreneur, it can definitely be a learned process. Take the NO EXCUSES approach to maintaining relationships. Work on setting up systems, being organized (or getting help with it) and learning to master discipline in your life. You'll never regret it!
That means doing some networking every single day, no matter how bogged down you are with life and existing friends. Get that letter out the door, rip out the newspaper article and send it to a friend or someone you want to meet, send that quick email to an acquaintance, write a thank you note. It doesn't matter what you do, just do it! Make the time for it and share your personality with others.
The key is to do SOMETHING that stimulates future friends and appointments because the reason that most retirees have relationship problems is THAT, nothing else. They spend time alone, or only seek out companionship when they're desperate. They do the same thing, day after day. It didn't work while you were in your work life, what makes you think it will work in retirement? Everything takes action, especially the networking.
YOUR RETIREMENT ASSIGNMENT:
Make a list of the things you can do DAILY for OVERFILLING your lifeline. Then, schedule the time for it. Yes, I know you can be busy, but you need to take the steps now before you find you're heading down the wrong path. It might be first thing in the morning, right before lunch, or maybe it's right before you turn off the light and head off to bed each night. It doesn't really matter when you do it, as long as you make a commitment to doing this for the rest of your life.
Make it simple for yourself. Buy books of stamps instead of one at a time. Or better yet, if you have access to a computer, sign up for SendoutCards.com. This is an inexpensive, easily managed way to stay in contact with people you know.
It's really easy once you get started. You'll find that you never experience that unhappiness and loneliness again. Guaranteed.
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About the Author:
Tracey Fieber, The Retirement Transition Expert, is founder of the Secrets to Retirement Success System™ and www.NewFaceOfRetirement.com, the proven step-by-step program to create the retirement of your dreams, have fun with more friends, make more impact with your life, while having more time off to enjoy it all. To receive your F.R.E.E. Audio CD by mail and get weekly how-to articles on attracting the life you want to live, visit www.NewFaceOfRetirement.com.